Whether you had a childhood of bliss or challenge, it is what made you who you are today AND is the origin of some of your greatest skills...aka...the roles you played as a child impact your success today.
I am not here to play your therapist, but I am here to connect the dots between your unconscious actions and the outcomes they create.
You took on different roles in order for you to feel loved and safe. There is a gift inside each one of these roles…if you choose to become aware of it, to release the story that created it and to tap into the skill that was developed from it.
Here are a few brief examples of what I am talking about:
• If you grew up feeling like you had to be a PERFECTIONIST to be loved/safe and you have not released that story, then you will not be a good leader, because you will either brow beat your team to do it your way or you will push them aside and do it yourself.
However, if you are conscious of that role you historically and habitually played then you are able to get to the skill it developed. You are someone who will rally the troupes and do whatever it takes to get the job done.
• If the role you played was that of being INVISIBLE, then you are very good at flying under the radar and not rocking the boat.
However, if you have made peace with that role then you have a gift of knowing how to run the show from behind the scenes to get the job done smoothly and efficiently.
• Did you take on the role of being a PEOPLE PLEASER? Then you learned the art of giving at the expense of yourself. You also don’t make sound business decisions from this place, so it will limit your ability to be a leader or the successful manager of your business.
However, if you have become aware of this trait, the impact it has and work to ensure you no longer do that, you have the ability to tap into the gift/skill that it offers; being able to read people and make meaningful connections quickly.
• Was your role that of being the family DIPLOMAT? If that is true, then for sure your truth and all that was important to you got lost in the day to day of managing others and situations.
When you realize that you really don’t need to maneuver situations, you are able to utilize the skill that comes from playing that role, knowing how to diffuse a situation or have a difficult conversation without setting people off.
• In order to protect yourself, were you the ANGRY FAMILY MEMBER? The person who was emotionally driven, where your feelings overtake the facts ensuring the truth was lost.
If you are conscious of this then you have the ability to turn that anger into passion and engage others on a deep and meaningful level. You will create lasting relationships and team members that will go the distance for you.
• Were you the COMEDIAN? Feeling responsible for keeping everyone together, safe and happy. When you recognize that it is not your job to do that you can take advantage of all that role taught you. You have a true ability to quickly read a room and know how to bring people together.
There are so many different roles we played growing up. Take a moment and think about what yours were. Make peace with that role. Look deeper into why you played it and look for the learning/gift/skill that you developed because of it.
All of this is part of your story; your greatest place of differentiation, natural strengths, what you become known for...the elements that create your success. We All Have A Story Become conscious of the roles you played, the skills/gifts that developed from them and use that story to create even greater success.
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